THE PLEASURE SURVEYS
There are many social scripts around what people want in the bedroom, but we all know our sexuality is as varied as our personalities. The Pleasure Surveys collected data from mover 200 heterosexual men and women to characterize what really turns people on, what doesn't, what is most exciting, challenging, intimidating and pleasurable in the bedroom.
Data is currently in the analysis phase, with dissemination planned for late 2026.
what elevates The sexual experience for women?
“Tuck my hair behind my ear.”
“Presence, breath, slowing it down.”
“Tell me how much you want me and why.”
“Don't be afraid to incorporate toys and lube.”
“Not if he knows what to do with it.”
“Too big can hurt.”
“Length and girth both matter for the experience of penetration - but there's so much more you can do.”
“Average is wonderful!”
“Hardness is more important than size.”
does size matter?
WHAT MAKES THE SEXUAL EXPERIENCE BETTER FOR MEN?
“When women feel more confident initiating or taking control.”
“Willingness to try new things, openness to be vulnerable.”
“Have less of an expectation to perform and do what feels good for them too.”
“Unlearn everything we learned in school about sex to create the experience that fits our chemistry.”
WHAT DO YOU WISH WOMEN WOULD AVOID DOING?
“Apologizing. For anything… for their beautiful bodies… or their actions… or their involuntary responses.”
“Avoid feeling like they need to fake anything. I'd rather know when you're getting off so I can get better.”
"Restricting their passion and becoming a passive object.”